Warm and Fuzzies

We have been told over and over by so many people in the adoption community that matches came in the strangest of ways and that we should tell everyone we know that we are adopting in case they hear of a situation that might fit for us. Honestly, it seems a bit farfetched to me. Most of the people in our lives already know our situation and we have yet to have someone come up to us and say “Hey, I just met a woman carrying a biracial baby who is looking to make an adoption plan and we thought of you!” That said, I realized it couldn’t hurt, it was a great opportunity to touch base with some people we haven’t spoken with in a long time, and to have some positive vibes sent out to the universe on our behalf.

So yesterday I sent an email with our adoption website and email address out to everyone I knew. We received a ton of emails from the fabulous people in our lives letting us know they were thinking of us and praying for us. I had the warm and fuzzies all day. Some forwarded our email on to people who have adopted and so we received emails from people we never met who sent us their success stories, encouragement and hope.

I have felt very alone with all this crap – first dealing with infertility while so many of my friends were joining mommy groups and having “baby only” parties and now navigating the crazy world of adoption - not knowing anyone else going through this process. But yesterday I felt so connected to everyone in my life. I felt their love and excitement for us and it made me feel really, really lucky – something I haven’t felt in a long time. Honestly, for the past few years I have been way too focused on what is missing from my life rather than all the wonderful things I am blessed with. I know it’s a trap we all fall into from time to time, but I’m talking about being in this mindset for the last five years. It feels like a little piece of heaven to break out of it. Everyone talks about the stress of the adoption process, and don’t get me wrong, it is very stressful, but I’m finding it’s filled with many little blessings as well. We’re meeting people we would never have met another way, hearing wonderful stories of families being built, and being reminded about how many people out there love us and want the best for us. Sometimes you just have to stop and look around for the blessings because it can get so easy to get caught up in the rest of life – which, lets be honest, can be pretty hard sometimes.